For more than two weeks, I've been packing to leave for San Jose. For the first time in years, I'm actually on top of it. And STILL I had a bunch of crap to do at the end and got super stressed out. I mean, like, really stressed out.
In a word, I snapped.
At everyone in my house, that is.
Who had done absolutely nothing wrong and had in fact been offering their help for weeks.
And now I feel really bad.
Anyway, I bring this up because I think this is good practice for the week of the wedding. No matter how on top of it I am, and let's face it, I haven't been on top of wedding stuff lately, it's going to be stressful at the end.
And I cannot let what happened today happen then. That would be really bad for me, the groom, and everyone around us.
But the one thing I can say for myself is that I cooled down quickly. Normally, when something like this happens, it ruins my day. Not today. I cried, I screamed...and I calmed down. I apologized. I moved on.
It's a good first step.
Next stop: not letting it happen in the first place.
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Ohhhh yeah, no matter how calm, cool, and collected you think you are gonna be, you can never predict emotions in times of stress. Dave and I were like, "We aren't going to bicker. We aren't that type of couple." And we were bickering right till the end. Emotions are a bitch! I think the key is how you en the fight, snap, tiff, whatever. I read this one relationship book that said its healthy to fight or snap but its how things are resolved that determine the healthiness of the relationship and I fully believe that. Here's to hoping things don't become too stressful for you, of course!
ReplyDeleteI think I am going to be this way for real. I just have a tendency to get snippy. I am working on it...but if I blow up, it will be ok - my friends love me anyway! Although, I will try not to. ;-)
ReplyDeleteThis has been on my mind too! I really don't want to turn the week before the wedding into a stressball/cryfest/bitchfest/scream at all my loved ones time. Its going to be important to just try and lettttt it all go. But certainly easier said than done!
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