Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Oh, you want an invitation? All right, if we must...

Being in a state of immobility and until recently, lacking the ability to sit up straight for my than an hour, I haven't done one bloody thing for the wedding since the surgery.  I haven't really done anything useful since the surgery.  But today, the two-week mark, it is time to jump back on the "useful member of society" bandwagon, and I did so the most painful way possible:  I started looking for jobs and invitations.

Oh how I do not care about invitations.  Daniel and I agree that this is an area where every expense should be spared and as little time as possible should be wasted.

I do want to have them, and I'd like them to be nice, but that's pretty much the extent of my interest.  I will never understand people whose ultimate wedding goal is to make their own invitations and have them be perfect.  I am just not crafty like that.

So my invitation inspiration folder is filled with cheap, easy invitation-making websites, the kind where you fill in some text, and they send you the printed version.  Easy, peasy.

Thus far, we rather like this one:

(Daniel won't let me put the "sanity" part in the actual invite :( )

Simple, elegant, and appropriate.  Not particularly original, but we're not particularly concerned about that.  I'd be ready to order after less than an hour's search if it weren't for one little practical detail that I actually care about.

As you all know, the guest list and I have a hate/hate relationship.  The stress it causes me extends to the actual guests and their ability to return their invitations on time and with the proper number of people.  As in, I dearly do not want people to invite people who were not actually invited by writing their names in on the RSVP card.

To avoid having to have the "um, actually, that person wasn't invited" talk, I came up with a plan a while back.  This plan involves having personalized RSVP cards with the names of all of the invitees written out on the card, so you can check "yes" or "no" for each person.  No room to write in names means no uninvited guests on the RSVP card, right?

Unfortunately, sites like 123print.com do not seem to have this kind of personalization.  My first foray onto Etsy.com seemed like the logical solution, but it has yet to produce satisfactory results.

And so I turn to you, dear readers.  Help!  My requirements are simple:  I want cheap invitations that do not require me to do anything more than type in their text but that allow enough customization for me to produce the personalized RSVP cards described above.  And I don't want them to look like crap.  That's pretty much it.  Ideas?  Websites?  People?  Do you know anywhere/anyone who can do this for me?


  1. My understanding is that usually you address the envelope to all the invitees, right? And then just the number included in the card.
    Naturally people can add/change that number to something greater if they so choose... but I think, they could easily as just write in another name somehow if they are so adamant about including other people anyway.

    We had addressed the envelopes with all names (or families) invited, and then did number invited on the rsvp card, and whatnot. It actually mostly worked. The only problem is that a ton of annoying people just kept asking about being invited anyway, and my parents kept adding to the guestlist because of that... but I don't think we had too many add-ons from the invitation themselves.
    This is especially shocking because pakistani/indian people have no shame usually.

  2. oof, the point of all that was to say you might be able to just stick with a generic style anyway and not worry about too much customization on the rsvps.
    Or just buy blank rsvp cards and do it yourself.

  3. I've never seen this done on RSVP cards so I don't really know where you could have this done. It is a very clever idea - have you checked all those websites, including VistaPrint, Shutterfly, and Moo cards? If you can't find it, I guess you could format your own cards on Word or something and print them on pretty paper and cut them out yourself. It sounds simple in theory..

  4. Once you order the invitations, the company sends them all to you in a box. You write the addresses on the envelope and all that. Well, you're also free to write or print on the stuff they sent you, so you could write in little boxes with the invited people's names, or you could even print out a separate card for that. We had to do that for the maps.


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