Neither of us is particularly concerned with the music at our wedding. We like music and want people to dance, but there are a lot of other things we care about more.
We are having an iPod wedding. Or rather, a MacBook. Frankly, I don't understand why more people don't do this. It's like a personalized DJ. I have a reasonably large selection of songs, and if we think we need more dancing music (or just a higher proportion of Disney : Non-Disney music), we can always buy it on iTunes. Still way cheaper than a DJ.
Originally, Daniel wanted a live band. This was before he knew how much weddings cost. Once numbers started coming out, this idea was scrapped completely.
But the idea of live music never really left him. His cousin, Barrett, is a professional musician, and my brother aspires to be one, so asking one or both of them to play for a bit was always an option.
Recently, he approached me about having Barrett do the music for the ceremony. At first, I rejected the idea. You may have noticed that I'm a bit of a control freak. I want everything to be perfect. Using pre-recorded music to me is more likely to go as planned, and part of the reason I never wanted live music is because I think recorded music sounds better, so that is what I wanted to walk down the aisle to.
Then Daniel said something that made me take a step back: "You're not going to change your mind on this, are you?" Crap, I thought, am I becoming that girl? I don't want to be that bitchy bride who gets everything she wants. This is our wedding. It shouldn't just be about me. So I said, "If this is something you want, then let's talk about it."
When we did, I realized that Daniel didn't even want live music for the whole ceremony, and we were easily able to come to a compromise that made everyone happy. We would ask Barrett to play acoustic guitar before the ceremony started, and everyone would walk down the aisle to recorded music.
We'll probably have a similar arrangement for the reception. Most of the music will be pre-recorded, but I will probably ask my brother to do a set for us...that is if he will agree to play non-depressing music that people can dance to. This way, we'll be able to have some live music at our wedding without spending more than a few dollars for iTunes.
And so a musical compromise was made, and a big thing was checked off the list.