tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post4369611680338927897..comments2023-03-24T04:04:40.238-07:00Comments on The Princess Bride: The Name Gamenicoliolihpfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13458212893830870874noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-74748307174420380332010-06-08T07:09:32.085-07:002010-06-08T07:09:32.085-07:00That's exactly the problem, Andrew.That's exactly the problem, Andrew.nicoliolihpfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13458212893830870874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-52756588106059867622010-06-07T03:15:01.797-07:002010-06-07T03:15:01.797-07:00People will hear your last name and know that you&...People will hear your last name and know that you're married, which is generally a good thing. I understand Daniel's hesitancy in changing his last name. Suddenly you're cutting ties to both of your families. It'd be weird. It's kind of inexplicable, but just like we like being gentlemen, chivalrous, etc., we also want to feel like we're the man of the house, that we're carrying on the family line. I think it's genetically ingrained. You'll get used to the new name, it'll just take a few months.Andrewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04940526318756007127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-42016736063823819482010-06-02T11:53:02.722-07:002010-06-02T11:53:02.722-07:00Nicole, you do realize that "Robert" is ...Nicole, you do realize that "Robert" is a boy's first name too, right? So changing your name to Roberts really wouldn't be any different than your name now. <br /><br />Second, you say you've never doubted taking on your husband's name, but suddenly that changes because Daniel's name ends in "man"? From what I know and assume, Daniel's name comes from roots where one's ;ast name describes their profession - making it no different than "Smith", "Baker", etc (even my maiden name). The male connection to the name does name the man the head of the family or the one with said profession, but we know that Daniel is not going to take on the profession that his name connotes (nor do most Smiths become blacksmiths or Bakers actually bake bread), so the name no longer gives any specific significance to your family, profession, or state of governing the household.<br /><br />Honestly, I don't see much difference in ending a name with "man" (to describe the man's profession or whatnot) as one that ends in "son" (showing that the person is the male child of some other person of note) - and there are tons of "son" names out there (including my new name, you know). Again, this name originally instated the man as the important one, the carrier of the family name, the head of the house, but do people really think of that when they meet someone named Thompson or Wilson or anything else?<br /><br />I don't know - I may not be much help because I *do* believe the man should be the head of the household and the carrier of the name. I think asking or expecting a man to change his name has more social backlash, and there's more to lose (also, it's way harder to do, legally). You're not required to take Daniel's name, but I think he has a right to keep it if he so desires.lauralove.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08088717355828919303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-77664028875615369022010-05-31T08:56:37.258-07:002010-05-31T08:56:37.258-07:00@kristin: THAT makes total sense to me. I would ...@kristin: THAT makes total sense to me. I would also feel like I should give up whatever I can for him, especially since I have done that plane flight a few times, and I shudder at the prospect of doing it on a semi-regular basis.nicoliolihpfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13458212893830870874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-56731660500643961652010-05-30T23:41:03.139-07:002010-05-30T23:41:03.139-07:00I am giving up my last name. I was actually gonna ...I am giving up my last name. I was actually gonna do a blog post about this too, but I feel like my husband is giving up a lot for me- he is moving to my country, away from his family and childhood friends, plus he is going to wind up adopting a lot of "Americanisms" and leaving behind his old English ways. I feel like I should give up something for him, and show him I am ready to be part of his family although we will be a million miles away from them. IDK, maybe it is silly a reason. All of the women in my family gave up their maiden names too, so I guess making a new name or doing the hyphen thing never even crossed my mind. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10882952194282592771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-85531438019776910802010-05-30T22:53:11.715-07:002010-05-30T22:53:11.715-07:00Yeah, it was weird hearing Nicole Wallace after Ni...Yeah, it was weird hearing Nicole Wallace after Nicole Child, I'm not gonna lie. I really like your maiden name. And I agree, for Daniel it's mostly about legacy, especially since he's an only child. The thing is, I think his family cares a lot more than he does, and I do wonder how much of it is them.nicoliolihpfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13458212893830870874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1722928951700064194.post-49476553145267220042010-05-30T04:50:18.544-07:002010-05-30T04:50:18.544-07:00I HATED giving up my last name. I really loved bei...I HATED giving up my last name. I really loved being "Nicole Child," even though I haven't seen my biological father or his family since I was three. Mostly I just liked the sound, the shortness of it, and the uncommonness of it (I've never met or heard of anyone with the same last name!). However, Andrew really wanted me to take his last name, and I really wanted us to be a family and it makes things so much easier having the same last name. I do wish his name was a little more original, or barring that, that at least I was continuing some sort of family legacy by choosing "Wallace" but the reality is that his family has only been Wallace for one generation (they were Zuwalack, I think before coming to the states). However, I think I understand why Daniel wants to hang on to his last name. It's probably been in his family for generations and you should continue the legacy. Besides, there are worse and less interesting names than his out there!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14081702754498582443noreply@blogger.com